God knows we need an antidote to all the lousy men in the news - and I think I’ve found one | Emma Brockes

For the past month, every woman I know has been having versions of the same conversation, roughly opening with: for the love of God, how rapey is the news? No period of history has been free from accounts of male sex-offending. But the present roll call of alleged offenders - Diddy, Fayed, the French rapist and his endless accomplices, various scandals in broadcasting, and last week, new charges for the man who keeps giving on this subject, Harvey Weinstein - is particularly grim. For just one day, I would like to turn on the news without having to hear a presenter struggling to find a way to say "lube" in a BBC voice. So let's talk about something else: Doug Emhoff.

Doug Emhoff! Kamala Harris's husband and consort, a man very possibly in line to be the first first gentleman of the United States and, as far as we can tell, an antidote to lousy men everywhere. This week, I heard Emhoff referred to as a "wife guy", which made me smile - wife guy being simultaneously a nice term of affection for men who unreservedly support their wives, and also a reminder that no word for a female equivalent can exist. (What use the tautology of being a "husband chick" when, for straight women, embedded in the definition of the word "wife" is total, unwavering support of your husband).

Anyway, Emhoff - what a rare beast. A former entertainment lawyer, a music person who named his kids after jazz legends, a man extremely adept at playing the lovable goofball, which doesn't rule out the possibility he's a lovable goofball, and a husband seemingly completely happy to promote, support and cheerlead his high-profile wife. To my eye, Emhoff, who is 59, has Dan Aykroyd, or maybe John Goodman, energy: the American every-dad who can rock a plaid shirt at the weekend, and on Monday whip up a quick lawsuit to vanquish your enemies.

Exactly how Emhoff has nailed this vibe comes down to a mixture of things. The fact he's called Doug definitely helps. Has there ever, in public life, been a bad "Doug"? (No.) Doug is easygoing. Doug is dependable - but not boring! Doug shows up. Doug quit his job when his wife became vice-president so he could give her his all. Doug is a mensch, although on the subject of his Jewishness, opponents of leftwing positions around Israel assert that Doug has overplayed his heritage for political gain. This sounds perilously close to Donald Trump's observations about Harris's background, but anyway, it's all part of the 360 degrees of Doug Emhoff. After all, Doug isn't perfect!

I mean, he really isn't. Earlier this year, Emhoff acknowledged that the end of his first marriage to Kerstin Mackin in 2008 was messy and that he had been unfaithful. It's not ideal, I know. It is telling, however, that Emhoff's first wife, who has kept his name, has been extremely active promoting Harris's bid for the presidency. When JD Vance went after Harris for not having biological children - a sentence it still seems wild to have to type - Kerstin Emhoff popped up to defend the Democratic candidate, calling Vance's remarks "baseless attacks". She told CNN that, "for over 10 years, since Cole and Ella were teenagers, Kamala has been a co-parent with Doug and I". She was, she said, grateful to have her as part of their blended family.

Which brings us to the Emhoff kids. To anyone's knowledge, has there ever been a hipster first son or daughter in the White House? Of course, go back enough years and who knows; maybe in 1798, Abigail Adams was riding around the West Wing on a penny farthing drinking mojitos out of a teacup. But in recent memory, ranging back over Trump's children, the Obama kids, the Bush twins and Chelsea Clinton, every one of them looked perfectly primed for a postgrad internship at Goldman Sachs or a nepo arrangement in Hollywood. Ella Emhoff, by contrast, is a designer specialising in knitwear, who lives in Bushwick, Brooklyn. She turned up at the Democratic convention earlier this year covered in tattoos and wearing pebble glasses and a vintage frock.

There are other wife guys out there, although you have to search quite hard to find them. A friend suggests Alexis Ohanian, husband to Serena Williams and millionaire co-founder of Reddit. Ohanian has his own thing going on, which doesn't guarantee that a man won't resent his wife's success. But in public, Mr Serena Williams always seems over the moon to be by her side. There's an argument for Prince Harry as wife guy. You've probably got to rope Denis Thatcher into this conversation. I'm sure there are others.

But this is about Doug Emhoff, who, to the extent that we can ever know anything about other people's relationships, offers further proof of Harris's good judgment. She could have had anyone, but she chose Doug, and there's a lesson in that for all of us. Whoever they may be, find your Doug Emhoff - possibly on the second go-around, just to be safe - and run for the biggest job you can imagine.